Why therapy works best in your own language

Emotions live in the first language

Most people who use two languages notice that words carry different weight in each. A swear word, a term of endearment or a childhood phrase lands harder in the language you grew up with. A second language can create a useful distance, but it can also keep feelings at arm’s length when the aim is to get closer to them.

What gets lost

• Precision. You say “sad” when you mean something with no direct translation.
• Speed. While you search for a word, the feeling passes.
• Humour and nuance. Part of who you are does not come across.
• Cultural context. Family, religion and expectations need less explaining to someone who shares your background.

When a second language helps

Some people find it easier to talk about painful or taboo subjects in a language that feels less loaded. Bilingual therapists often use this on purpose, moving between languages as the work requires. If you have the choice, a therapist who shares both of yours is ideal.

Living abroad

If you live in a country whose language you speak only at work, finding a local therapist you can open up to is difficult. Online therapy removes the geography. You can work with someone in your own language, and keep the same therapist if you move again.

mymind offers therapy in English today, with Spanish, German and French on the way. Tell us your language in the matching questions. Read more about therapy for people living abroad.

This article is general information, not medical advice. If you are in crisis, please use the resources on our Get help now page.